Social Networks and Relationships... Do you choose your fate?

I see a lot of people talking about relationships whether its friends, work, romantic etc and social networking and I think I have a pretty strong opinion on whether it works or doesn't. I wanna touch on this subject mostly because some people can't handle certain things and I think at that point it will determine if you should have one or not.

Friends and social networking can get kind of sticky from what I know and have experienced personally. Like my friend Shay and I always say... I am not sitting at a high school cafeteria. Basically, I do not expect my friends to ONLY be friends with who I am friends with and vice versa. I think that is completely petty of someone to think "I am not friends with you so my friends wont be either" I mean really? Just because you don't mesh well with someone does not mean that another person who MAY happen to be in your circle wont. Lets grow up people. Another thing I have noticed is twitter and Facebook becoming some people's life and they don't seem to do anything else. Who are we kidding? Some of the time you are WASTING wondering who is tweeting whom and who said what and did what with or to whom is childish and could be spent making money. We all are in a position to make a better life for our self... If you have all that time you couldn't possibly be doing everything that you should or could be doing. It really bothers me when I see mothers doing it the most. Seriously, lets get lives people.

Work and social media have to be the most careless mistake I see happening. I mean really think about it. You don't make "best friends" at work. You may make friends but can you really trust everyone at work? No not at all. I don't see why your coworkers need to be apart of your private life and why people continue to slander and down talk their position and or company knowing they have people on work from there. For instance, you will never see me putting information about my job on a social network. At that point you have opened pandora's box and you are leaving room for error. I have witnessed people tweeting and facebooking that they have called out of work and were really not sick the silly part about that is you have "friends" on your FB and who follow you on twitter and they are all at work while you play hookey (sp?)... Do you really think that your coworkers/friends really wont care? Oh please. They will bite your back out the second they get a chance to. Watch what you do. Beyond coworkers there are networking departments for your company that go through and search for your name, or people who use those keywords including the company name on social sites. So if you say your jobs name on one and they search and you come up... but you are bad mouthing the company... Hmmm wonder what the consequences for that would be? Lets try to work on that. Besides the internet although you think it might be really is not your personal diary or public journal. There are other ways to "do what you want" without including and or bad mouthing your company. I mean really if it is that bad I would suggest getting a new gig.  

The main one I want to address would be the romantic relationship part of social networking... One thing I never understood was if you are going to stalk one anothers page OR question every opposite sex that appears on your other half's feed or timeline why follow or friend them? I'm going to chalk it up to WANTING to be upset. News flash... Someone is always going to want the person you are with in some way shape or form so why put yourself through that? Furthermore, why be with the person? I know I've seen thing in my relationships that were COMPLETELY unacceptable and I handled them the way I should in my opinion. Hardly kicking up dust but taking a mental note and sliding it in my back pocket to do with what I wish later. *evil laugh* I mean there are ways of "fixing" a problem without always questioning. I keep certain people blocked, I also filter who gets to see what... I am nice like that. Don't take up any issues you have with your other half with anyone they are interacting with UNLESS you KNOW that they know about you and are being disrespectful toward you. Another person does not care if you are in a relationship if they don't know you... If they don't like you.  Why would they? They are out for self and self only. Use your brains.

If you can't cope in a social network environment accordingly, you shouldn't be on one. You choose to be in the mind state that you are in no one else. No one can "make you mad" you allowed them to do that. No one can make you crazy... you did it to yourself. I think that relationships that are healthy can make it through anything... As long as there is honesty. If you can't be honest, that trust is broken... trust is a requirement you can't make it in a relationship without it. Think about it. Watch, listen and be quiet. Its your best tool to making choices.

Why America is fat... The future of our children...

I remembered back in my child days I was ALWAYS outside. Any no school day I couldn't wait to get outside with my friends and do all kinds of things like, riding bikes, playing tag, making fake club houses, pretending to be in the gymnastics etc... My friends and I loved it. A parent couldn't pay us to go inside. During school days it was get off the bus, run home, do homework then chores and hurry and get as much play time as possible in before the street lights. Ahhh.... the GREAT YEARS.

I remember my parent cooking full course meals and being creative with different varieties of food. I loved home cooked meals... Oh and yes, that included vegetables. When we would ask my mom or dad for fast food sometimes they would say yes, most times they would say no. My moms favorite line when we asked to go to burger king was yes we are going to BK and when we said YAAAYYY she would say Brenda's Kitchen. LMAOOOO that's STILL funny to me. It tickles me how clever my parents are.

As I look at the last few years I noticed a trend. A huge one. Kids are getting so HUGE at a young age. I don't really care that I shouldn't say that or that your kid may be one or that you thought I was out of line. The reality is parents arent making their kids go outside, or do any physical activity of any kind. Not even chores. Parents arent forcing children to eat vegetables and on top of that not making them eat anything that is on the pyramid except the sugars section. I will say those types of parent DRIVE ME.... Seriously, you are the parent be that. The amount of hormones that are in foods these days and whatever else we dont even know about is just a sick thought. You want your children to eat that?? GROSS.

Parents, Wanna know why your daughter has a butt and growing breasts at a young age? Too early it seems? You have the hormones in food to thank for that. Just thought I'd throw that in there.

McDonald's isn't a meal, nor is burger king, taco bell, or anyother pull up to the window place. Take your lazy self home and cook. Oh and lay off the fried foods. Please purchase a child a bike and skates before you buy an xbox. Thanks in advance

Signed,

-A Concerned Major.